I so dislike the term “singleness.” Ick. It sounds like an illness or disease, or something you want to get away from or be healed of… something you need to tolerate until you break out and become married. Whatever.
Single is a position: a profoundly God-purposed, valuable place in life!
I’m now married. When I entered into marriage (not marriedness) I did not feel in the least that I had been delivered of *singleness*. Quite the contrary. I realized all the more the inestimable value of the precious God-ordained position in life that I‘d been granted for 43 years.
I regret deeply that for many of those years, especially the older I got, I desperately wished and prayed and hoped that my position would change. Marriage was my focus. It was Jesus + marriage = my happiness & satisfaction. Thus, I was always wanting to be someplace other than where I was; someplace other than where God had assigned me. In the process, I wished so much of my life away; so much of what God had purposed and planned for me in those years as a single person that I could not recoup once I was married.
The Apostle Paul considers the single person to be in a place of *more*; a blessed and strategic position where one has a greater capacity for more wholehearted devotion to God (see 1 Corinthians 7). And after all, isn’t that really the goal… to love God wholeheartedly?
Marriage is not the end game. Christ is.
Marriage is not the goal. Christ is.
Marriage is not the fulfillment of your joy and happiness. Christ is.
Marriage is not your holy ambition. Christ is.
So I say this with all due respect to those who write and teach and speak on the subject of “singleness”: Find a new word and get a new perspective.
And to you, dearest friend- single or married, your position in Christ is a profoundly purposeful one! Make the most of your *now* place. Fix your eyes and set your heart on Jesus- knowing him, loving him and following him all the days of your life.